Your child told you they're trans? You're in the right place.
It's normal to have questions, doubts, fears. What matters is getting informed.
We've gathered the most important scientific resources to help you understand, support and accompany your child on their journey.
Where to start
Essential resources for those facing this situation for the first time.
When your child is trans
What to do if your child is transgender: how to react, how to support them, what science says about family acceptance, and where to find help.
A child's trans coming out
How to react when a son or daughter comes out as transgender: parents' emotions, mistakes to avoid, how to communicate, and where to find support. Based on scientific research.
My child is trans: what the science really tells families
How to support a trans family member: scientific data on acceptance, mental health, and practical resources for parents, siblings, and families.
Transgender children: what they experience and how to help
Transgender children: how gender identity manifests in childhood, what research says, and how parents and schools can help.
Frequently asked questions
The questions every parent asks. Answers based on scientific research.
How do I know if my child is trans?
There is no definitive test. Gender identity is a personal experience. The best approach is to listen, create a safe space and, if necessary, consult a specialized professional.
Is it just a phase?
Research shows that gender identity solidifies between ages 3 and 5. Adolescents who express a trans identity persistently and consistently rarely change their mind. Family support is the most important factor for their well-being.
What can I do as a parent?
Listen without judging, use the requested name and pronouns, inform yourself from scientific sources and seek support from expert professionals. Family support drastically reduces the risk of depression and anxiety.
Will my child have to undergo medical interventions?
No. Transition is a personal journey and does not necessarily involve medical or surgical interventions. Each person chooses their own path. For minors, no protocol involves irreversible interventions.
How should I handle the name and pronouns?
Using the name and pronouns chosen by your child is one of the most important things you can do. Research shows that respecting identity significantly reduces anxiety and depression. If you make a mistake, correct yourself without making a big deal of it and move on.
Should I tell the school?
The decision is your child's. Many schools have protocols for using a chosen name. Discuss it together and, if you decide to proceed, request a meeting with the school principal.
Is it my fault my child is trans?
No. Gender identity is not caused by education, the family environment or traumatic experiences. Scientific research indicates a strong biological component, with genetic and prenatal hormonal factors. It's nobody's fault: it's simply part of who your child is.
Who can I turn to for professional support?
Look for psychologists or therapists with experience in gender identity. Specialized centers exist in many regions. Parent associations of trans people can also offer peer support and guidance.
What if they change their mind?
The detransition rate is below 2-3% according to the most recent meta-analyses, and in most cases it's due to social pressures, not a change in identity. Pathways for minors are gradual and reversible: they start with listening and psychological support, without rushing.
Learn more
What science says: articles with peer-reviewed sources on identity, transition and well-being.
Parenthood and trans people
Can transgender people have a family? Adoption, assisted reproduction, pregnancy, co-parenting: all the options for trans people who want to become parents.
Mental Health and Transgender People: What the Research Really Says
Depression, anxiety, and suicide among transgender people: data, statistics, and the role of minority stress. The risk factors are not identity but discrimination.
Gender identity: what it is and what we know
Gender identity: meaning, difference from biological sex and sexual orientation, how it develops, and what science says. A comprehensive guide.
Safety of Medical Transition
Is gender transition safe? Risks of hormone therapy, scientific evidence, studies, and meta-analyses on the safety of medical transition.
Transgender social contagion and ROGD
Is transgender social contagion a myth? What science says about Littman's ROGD, the counter-evidence, and the debunking of transgender social contagion.
Detransition: what the data actually say
What is the real detransition rate? Peer-reviewed data on regret after gender-affirming care, causes of detransition, and the difference between desistance, detransition, and regret.
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